Is our culture going to drains?

I am sure a large number of us Indians would have been involved, or at the least heard, in the 'We are losing out on the essence of our culture' and 'The Westerners have truly left behind a lot of themselves and their culture ruining our younger generation' talk. Recently I read an article on a person's opinion on the topic and I somehow found that I too agree with him, more or less.

No matter how much we try to ape the West, there will always be an Indianness to it- is what I feel on the topic. We could be as broad-minded as them to see a movie with compromising scenes along with out children. But I wonder how many of them would actually not mind their own children hugging a person from the opposite sex. Not to mention if the girl is at a marriageable age! I know quite a few people, girls, who drink and get their head intoxicated with so much of booze that they are not very much in their senses. Personally, I am not for it. Maybe I am old-fashioned or non-modern, but I wonder why most of these very same 'modern' girls do all of this behind their parent's backs. Which very well shows that no matter how open or modern they may be, there is still the Indianness within them that pulls them away from telling their parents that "Yes Dad I drink, and I love it!" And I wonder how many of the parents, who consider themselves nothing short of being a replica of his/her American boss would like hearing that from their child.

I don't understand what is wrong in girls wearing jeans and a short top when she is out with her friends! Dude, what modernity are you talking about when you can't accept and respect the fact that that girl could very well be your sister or daughter. When you can wear low-waist jeans that literally grab for their lives from falling, what is it that makes your eyes pop out when girls wear 'decent' clothes covering everything that has to be covered? So are you modern? Well no I don't think so. I think that 'quality' to stare at a girl even she wears a salwar, is Indianness enough!

So is our culture going to the drains? I don't have an answer to that, but personally I feel the practice of blaming other cultures for the same is just an excuse for all the ill-treatments happening in the society. Don't all cultures have their good and bad sides? Yes, English is the world wide known language and no youngster can survive without being fluent in that language. It is a fact and one has to accept it! Very ironically and unfortunately that happened to be the 'mother tongue' of the Westerners! So accept the fact and thrive towards achieving it. It is the good side of that culture, and if you continue cribbing about the ill-effects other cultures have done to ours, then God save you! Because personally I feel, there is no one else to blame other than oneself. It is you who is ready to adopt the appalling standards of cultures. So bear it yourself. Don't blame someone else for your own actions!

An apology and a promise

Ever been in a situation where you have had tonnes of topics to write on, but you just wouldn't let yourself to sit down and write your heart out? Well that was exactly what my life was all about for the past God knows when!

Being bribed..Getting admission in one of the most reputed colleges in India...All the tension and weirdness that followed writing the examination and attending the interview and before the admission was announced...The feeling of having your parents with you every single minute of your life...A trip to a fabulous chilly place when compared to the scorching heat at the present place...Not to mention the cute people I met there!!! were just a few of the topics I wanted to pour my heart out on. But it was like a hatred towards words, I just couldn't wouldn't sit down to mesmerize my beautiful readers with my even more beautiful stories!

Ok, so this is another new thing I have promised myself on. I have got to make myself understand that I am capable of whatever I really want to achieve. Self-confidence-nil!

So here is the promise I have made around a zillion times! I will write on something, be it whatever random insane topic, everyday. You know why? Because I have a huge task and dream in front of me. And for that reality to be a dream, I have absolutely no time to laze around. So here's to a new beginning! CHEERS!!

Death leaves none

All those big shot, uberly super people, BEWARE!!
Because what awaits you, awaits all those poor slum dwellers, who you have tortured to the maximum possible. Surprised??
But isn't it true?
Death is the same for both the extremes.
In front of death, there is no good or bad, first-class or poor, evil or superior.
S/he is inevitable and irreplaceable.
So enjoy the time given to you.
But not at the expense of other's happiness...
Because they too have the right to live and enjoy the very same life gifted to you.


P.S: I don't really know how this post has come out, but I am just very moved by a person's death, who was close to my heart.

Tired of fighting? Learn to juggle!

There was this wonderful opportunity at company X where I could have worked, had my husband allowed me to! If it wasn’t for my marine engineer husband’s crave to have me at home during his four months of holiday, I wouldn’t be sitting idle during the rest of the months when he is busy working! Had my ex-fiancé been broader minded and allowed me to work along with the men crowd, I would have been happily married by now!

How many of us have or is going through such a situation where we would love to work and earn a living for ourselves, but have kept aside our dreams and aspirations for the happiness of our better halves? Women have been known for their sacrificing abilities and many at times members of the opposite gender tend to misunderstand their decisions as our happiness.

At the same time how many of us have been in such a situation where our husbands admire women who are financially and professionally independent? Not to forget that these women are in no way related to them! Feel inferior? Does our inner voice cry, “You are incapable!”? Scream aloud the song, ‘mein karoon toh saala character deela hain’, and it would fit perfectly.

So how exactly can you- the ‘love of their life’- calm down the men folk when you lay your neatly pedicured, nail painted slender legs on to the work field?

The sole and life breaching reason is the lack of trust the men folk have in us. The solution? Do learn to take things with a pinch of salt. Do not take the “I don’t trust you” dialogue in the literal sense. Haven’t you had that ‘special’ moment when you doubt your husband when he is on the phone with a lady colleague? Men too have the freedom to hesitate such a moment in their life. Gain their trust. Spend some time with him and make him realize how important this job offer is to you and how it would help both of you financially.

But in the chaos of working, do not forget to spend that quality time your husband loves! No matter how modern life could get, any hungry, tired man would love to get back to a house where his wife welcomes him with a warm smile and hug along with a table of his favourite dishes. Sounds tough and tiring, doesn’t it? Whoever coined the proverb, ‘there is no gain without pain’, was completely true to the last dot!

Jugglers are not meant to be confined to the circus. A woman is known to be the queen of juggling; mastering the art of being a daughter, sister, wife, mother, home-maker, workaholic all together. So do remember your role as a wife and mother along-with the workaholic title! My mother, for example, was a super awesome mother and a star at her office. I am sure many of yours were too!

Well it all sounds a work of the superwoman, doesn’t it? But with all the elements in place, your husband is sure to agree to you stepping foot outside the house. After all behind every successful woman there is the hand of a man as well!

A farewell

You know that feeling when you sense a new beginning? A new life which you are not very sure if it will be a pleasant one or a tough one? A new start to a phase, which you are not very sure if you are looking forward to experience.

Well, on that morning that is how I felt. Opening my eyes to a room filled with packed bags and an otherwise overcrowded shoe stand, empty, it shot on me that this was the end to college life. Just a day before, the entire class was in tears and the four of us laughing away to glory. But I was sure that this morning would be gloomy and upset. None of us really cried, except for me. So we were quite sure we wouldn’t cry, but we were also sure that all of our hearts would be heavy.

So running that last run through one end of the corridor to the other, my eyes did fill with tears, but I held it back. After all it wasn’t like we would never meet again. And so we hugged like we would never let go, and said our final goodbyes. And all four of us didn’t forget to laugh those hideous laughs of us and we parted ways.

And now for the main question. What next? Well, it would either be higher studies or a job! My parents would love it if I studied for a year or two more, but I would love to visit the work field and have a feel of it before I dig deeper into more books! Apart from these two options, I have many things in mind which I wish I could do. 

I would love to keep cooking till I shift to someplace else. I have to get my license in these two months. It is now or never! I want to reduce my weight! And I would love to be a lot more active on blog.

But for the time being it is just fun, relaxation and thinking about the old madness and smiling.

P.S: My comment list has gone down drastically L!!