Tuesday, February 7, 2012

A few changes I wish I had made...

 This morning I was sipping my hot cup of coffee, when a thought sprang upon me. There are a lot many incidents where I wish I had acted differently, or better said I wish I had spoken out rather than just keep mum. On the contrary, there are other moments when I wish I had just kept mum rather than blabbered things I wish I hadn’t!

The first scene that comes into my mind when I think of any ‘bad moments of my life’ would be the scene at my college. I was wiling away my time, when one guy dashes around towards me and accuses me of complaining about him to our Sir. After that incident I realized there is no use of trying head over heels to justify yourself to others, so I believe that I did no such thing and was planning a trip with my friends! So when he screamed at me, I should have asked him what the number was before 1144992!
Instead I screamed along with him, and boy you don’t want to know how huge, HUGE, that ‘nightmare’ of mine turned out to be.

Scene 2:

My bestest friend ever in this whole wide world was justifying her point about why she had asked me not to talk to a particular person. I was adamant and stubborn as I always am to people whom I am not afraid to be so. She stopped talking to me for nearly a year, thanks to the jack ass! So, yah, obviously I learnt my lesson and completely agreed on what she was saying about him. I should have joined her and bitched about him a lot more.
Instead I just kept quiet and silently agreed to everything she said. In fact I did include my points mentally. Don’t think anyone else would understand that, except her, because she kept quiet the moment she saw my head hung low, and came and gave me a huge hug. Ha, you have no idea how relieving that was! I guess that is what best friends are for.

Scene 3:

A girl came over one night and blasted her thoughts about how she thought my friends were and that I don’t know how to choose them WISELY and stuff! She was just another random girl I knew, and personally she had no right to barge into me, in the middle of the night, to talk about people whom she has no clue about. I should have let her know a bit of my mind and told her not-so-good things about her friends.
Instead I kept quiet, let her walk out of my life, and called my friend and started crying! I mean how stupidlyinsane was that! Why would I cry? But I guess if she, or anyone else for that matter, would return and accuse people who are really close to me, I would still keep my otherwisebigfatmouth shut! Is that bad?

So ya, I guess these are a few moments that are really close to my heart. For the sole reason, they taught me who my actual friends are! Just roaming around hand in hand during the happy times are not your friends. Having to have a not-so-nice poster in your name stuck all around your college and still have people stick around you no matter what, I guess those are my true friends.

A lot does happen over coffee J!!

P.S: For those who haven’t understood what the number before 1144992 means, it is a fabulous way to calm yourself at moments where you are sure you will blast off majorly! Count numbers the other way round. During cases of extreme outburst start from a really large number, like 1144992! Try it out. I am sure it will help you. It helped me!


Upasana said...

All of us have these moments!!Moments you wish had turned out differently! These always teach you a thing or two and it stays with you as you have learnt it by experience! Great post!

TheGirlAtFirstAvenue said...

We all have moments like these.. At least next time you'll be better prepared and know how to react!

♥ www.thegirlatfirstavenue.com

My Never Ending Thoughts... said...

How true..We all have certain moments when we feel dat we shouldn't have kept mum or we should have spoke our heart out but regret later for not doing so.. Nice post:)

Jen..The Butterfly Effect said...

Aww.Loved this post! It's so off-beat prsonal. You took the guts to write it down and even posted it.Wow! :)

I can connect with all that you wrote coz few incidents like your scene 2 did happen to me.And yes,our galfriends are the world's bestest.What more could you ask for?! :)

Lovely post!! :)

Writing Bee said...

@Upasana: They definitely have taught me many things. So they always are close to me :)

@TheGirlAtFirstAvenue and TNET: I wish I am more prepared the next time!!

@Jen: Awww thank you so much dear. And yes, you couldn't ask for anything more than one girlfriend who would be with you no matter what. I have two, so I guess I am doubly blessed :)

Hazel said...

At school I would have argued and argued with someone I didn't agree with but at college I just sat there and let them say all sorts of things that bothered me.

Wish I had been braver in college :(

Writing Bee said...

@Hazel: Awww dear, look at it this way,
You engaged your voice and throat pretty well the whole of your school life, that you have learnt it doesn't really make ANY difference!! So it is best to just keep shut. Some people just DO NOT deserve your time love

Seяendipity™ said...

Moments like these dot everybody's life.

I'm glad you learnt :)

You will definitely be prepared for better :)

Sujatha Sathya said...

aah! some friends are a godsend :)

and yes the first para is a reality of many of our lives too

Writing Bee said...

@Serendipity: Awww I hope so too :)!!!

@Sujatha Di: Truly some friends are send by God. I believe that God couldn't be everywhere so he sent friends instead.

Ashwini C N said...

Everyone has some moments like these. Despite how we fervently wish we acted in a different way, t's just all a good lesson for us. That's how we can console ourselves!

Writing Bee said...

@Ashwini: Yes lessons should be learnt from every small incident. And that is definitely the only way we can console ourselves during tough times!