India is divided into four parts North, South, West and
East. The Northern, Southern and Western parts of India are known to all. We
have Delhi to the North, Kerala to the South and Mumbai to the West.
Ok fine, enough with the drama, drama queen! I had this
article to do on a few North Eastern girls at college. And I was so pleasantly
shocked and thrilled talking to them that I have been going around telling
everyone possible about my new friends! So how could I miss out on my own
little personal space!
So did you know that the traditional custom of ‘arranged’
marriages is nearly unknown invisible in these places? Yes, they have only love
marriages, where the girl herself chooses the groom by herself, and the parents
accept after going through the routinely ‘check-up’! I know love marriages are
being widely accepted in India now, but not much in Southern India, and
definitely not at my home L!!
So anyway, they do not have the caste as a taboo as well. Though there are the
upper and lower castes, it is not a criteria during marriage or otherwise. It would
be a lot peaceful and calm if this practice was practiced in several parts of
India, especially in the interior parts.
Also, they claimed that women are most respected in their
place. They follow the matriarchal pattern, where they carry on the name of the
mother’s family! Also, a man sitting in a public vehicle would get up to offer
his seat to a standing young girl! Imagine seeing that somewhere else. Especially
in Tamil Nadu. Once, two of my friends and me were travelling by bus. There were
two middle aged men sitting in the ladies seat, in spite of there being seats
behind. We asked them ‘IF’ they could get up and sit in those seats, and they
gave us such a dirty stare like as if we asked them if they would accompany us
to our bedroom! That’s not all… The conductor, the hero God, comes in and tells
ladies and gents seats are only at the bus stand and not when we get into the
bus in between. Then, why the hell do they waste stickers in sticking ladies,
handicapped etc etc??!!
So anyway, this culture follows the we-will-respect-women
policy, and the youngest daughter of the family also continues staying in the
same home after marriage. I wonder how many of the boys would not mind staying
in their wives family home even after marriage. They have just two
seasons-summer and winter. Winter includes snow and summer involves rain! The rest
of India has just three climates-hot, hotter and hottest!!
Oh, you wouldn’t have to miss on your non vegetarian meal
once you are here, because the natives have a pure non vegetarian meal three
times a day!! And in spite of all this, are blessed with a slim body
*jealous*!! Their meal includes mostly onion, garlic and ginger and are
favourites of the hot spicy chilly.
These girls have come all the way from their home to this
college, at Coimbatore, solely to experience a new culture and society, and
would love to develop on their country. Imagine, the modern youth who are busy
aping the Western culture going around with the aim of developing on their own
state, leave alone country!
No one really bothers about the Seven Sister States, but we
have so much to learn from them. It is high time we stopped looking at the
Europeans, Americans and Australians, when we have such cultured and
deep-rooted people and traditions in our very own country!
6 comments:
Whoa! :) that was informative! :) i din't know girls have so much freedom out there! :)
and for some reason, in the beginning this post reminded me about 'pen friends' :P .. when i was probably in middle school, i had made quiet a no. of pen friends through these magazines and stuff just to get to know about culture and traditions of people of India :D.. Internet was expensive back then ;) :P :P..
and so true about the weather.. :| we hardly have much difference.. its jus hot air and col air.. nothin much drastic out here..
@Viya: Yes even I was very very surprised to know that women are well respected there.. We all have this notion that those places would not be well developed!! But never go by the cover of the book i guess!!
And yes pen friends was very common back then. But I never had the courage to believe if the details written in the paper and magazines were true or not
true the 7 sister states are grossly neglected
my neighbors were 2 Sikkim girls & also the college i went in had lots of students from NE. they are lovely people. and speak sweetly. the strange thing is i have hardly seen them losing their temper or being violent or angry. and their hair is to die for!
3 non-veg meals - used to be like that in my home in Udupi. :))
the women being respected its all so nice & yes, we need that spread in the rest of india too
@Sujatha Di: Very very true.. I don't really know these people close enough to know if they get angry fast or not, but they are truly lovely people to talk to!! And their hair!! I actually asked one of them if they straightened their hair, and they said everyone out there has such hair!! How come so much diversity in one single country huh??!!
@Sujatha Di: Very very true.. I don't really know these people close enough to know if they get angry fast or not, but they are truly lovely people to talk to!! And their hair!! I actually asked one of them if they straightened their hair, and they said everyone out there has such hair!! How come so much diversity in one single country huh??!!
i know the diversity in India is truly incredible
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